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Infidelity Recovery: What is it with Men?
Posted by: | CommentsMen, or more precisely polarized couples, find difficulty in fully committing to recovery from infidelity or an extramarital affair.
I’ve worked intensively with hundreds of couples over the past 25 years and, of course, you will not be surprised to know that more women than men are “open” to marital therapy and talking about relationships in general.Most men reluctantly enter the realm only if they “have to.” Their marital world usually needs to be in dire straits before they give their assent.
Here are some observations about this phenomenon:
1. Men think they are inadequate when it comes to expressing feelings or inner thoughts. And, they assume this is what marital therapy is all about. They perceive the woman as the expert in this realm and they assume that they will be in the “one-down” situation when it comes to working on the relationship. And, of course, no man wants to be one-down.
2. Men usually internalize. That is, they work through, or think through, a situation or problem. No one may know what is happening between their ears. Men usually do not have a need to “talk out” a problem or situation. And, of course, working on a relationship is about “talking it out.” At least that is what grocery store magazines and talk show hosts say.
3. Men are practical problem solvers. They define the problem, look at solutions and implement the solution. And, if that didn’t work, try another solution. Wooo-hooo psycho-babble is a foreign world and they don’t want anything to do with it.
I’m really being a little unfair to men here. Men, don’t be too upset. I sometimes make strong statements to make a point.
Some women, I find, share these traits as well. Actually it may be that more and more women share some of these characteristics. It’s Not Always GenderI conclude that the important issue here is not one of gender, but that of being in a polarized relationship. By that I mean, one person internalizes more and the other person has more of a need to externalize or “talk it through.”
The externalizer sees great value in self help books, perhaps therapy, and finds materials that will help him/her talk about and work on the relationship.
The other partner thinks, “Oh no, do I have to?” And, only if his/her emotional or relational equilibrium is highly threatened will he/she journey into this territory. If he/she does
, it is only to the degree that the partner is appeased or he/she can find a quick and graceful way out.A beginning point for a “polarized” couple is to acknowledge the phenomenon. Polarization must be addressed before a couple can effectively repair or reconstruct the relationship.
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Some methods that produce immediate hypnosis are called as Instant.
And to produce this immediate or instant hypnosis we have two techniques and these techniques appropriately are called as instant induction techniques.
1. The first technique is based on post hypnotic suggestions. The subject when enters the deep hypnosis is given a signal which is an indication for him to go into hypnosis immediately.
This signal can be anything. A simple word, a touch on a particular place of body or even snap of fingers. But this should be agreed upon between the hypnotist and his subject (the person being hypnotized). The instruction or signal has to be given in a precise manner for the subject to carry it immediately.
This indication in form of a signal becomes permanent after a few repetitions.
2. The first one was inducing instant hypnosis after being hypnotized. Now in the second method, even without being hypnotized previously.
For this method to work, the person being hypnotized instantly has to believe that something usual is going to happen. After that, a sudden instruction of snap of fingers will make the person go into hypnosis.
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The very fact that he is trying but unable to free hands is an indication that he is almost in a hypnotic state.
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How To Secretly Hypnotize Anyone InstantlySome methods that produce immediate hypnosis are called as Instant.And to produce this immediate or instant hypnosis we have two techniques and these techniques appropriately are called as instant induction techniques.1. The first technique is based on post hypnotic suggestions. The subject when enters the deep hypnosis is given a signal which is an indication for him to go into hypnosis immediately.This signal can be anything. A simple word, a touch on a particular place of body or even snap of fingers. But this should be agreed upon between the hypnotist and his subject (the person being hypnotized). The instruction or signal has to be given in a precise manner for the subject to carry it immediately.This indication in form of a signal becomes permanent after a few repetitions.2. The first one was inducing instant hypnosis after being hypnotized. Now in the second method, even without being hypnotized previously.For this method to work, the person being hypnotized instantly has to believe that something usual is going to happen. After that, a sudden instruction of snap of fingers will make the person go into hypnosis.The handclasp exercise good example for this. The subject is told to clasp his hands and that at the count of three he cannot free his hands. An instruction ’sleep’ at the time when the subject is trying to free his hands takes his into hypnosis.Some amazing exercises and test can be learned here instantly and very easily.Check them out here
The very fact that he is trying but unable to free hands is an indication that he is almost in a hypnotic state.All the techniques of speed hypnosis, instant hypnosis or rapid techniques are based on the same principle that the subject should feel that something unusual is going to happen. A command to go into hypnosis does the rest.Indirect or Disguised Technique
It simply means the approach is made in such a way that the person is guided into hypnosis without making him aware that the condition he is in right now is hypnosis.
This indirect method of hypnosis depends on the subject misconception of hypnosis. The average person’s knowledge of hypnosis is that he has to be unconsciousness or asleep to be in a hypnotic state. Since unconsciousness and sleep has nothing to do with hypnosis, a person can be guided into hypnosis without he being aware of it.
In indirect or disguised technique the words hypnosis, sleep or relax are not used.
The best technique used in indirect hypnosis is progressive relaxation.
Waking HypnosisTwo ways to waking hypnosis
The first method is with post hypnotic suggestion. It means when the person is hypnotized and in a hypnotic stage he is told when he awakens, although he is wide awake in every respect, he will do exactly what is told.
When the hypnotist wakes the person he hypnotized and give simple suggestions which are within the scope of his level of hypnosis. For example when you tell him to raise his foot from the floor he cannot do it. You tell him he cannot separate his hands he cannot. This is waking hypnosis.
The second way is by extending the suggestibility tests. You can start this with simpler techniques like arm rising and falling test. And when this works you can do falling backward test and then later hands clasp test.
When a person is not able to separate hands in waking state it mean he is actually in waking hypnosis.
The important thing is the ability to accept or not accept suggestions depends upon thoughts, beliefs of the person being hypnotized. The mind is capable of doing many different things, but the person being hypnotized has to keep his mind exclusively focused on one main thing.
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